Red Flags of Relationship Abuse for Teens and Adults
Are you in an abusive relationship? Does your spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend:
- Act jealous and possessive
- Constantly criticize you
- Blame you for problems
- Make you feel guilty
- Control your time and activities
- Text or instant message (IM) excessively
- Monitor email or profile on social networking sites
- Isolate you from friends and family
Know the Different Forms of Abuse
Abuse is defined as "the use of power and control within an intimate relationship that threatens a person's well-being." -- Domestic Violence Network of Greater Indianapolis
- Emotional - ignoring feelings, playing mind games, being jealous and possessive
- Verbal - yelling, calling names, insults, put downs, threats
- Sexual abuse - not listening to ‘no', rude comments, unwanted touch
- Physical abuse - hurting a person physically, destroying property, using weapons
Do any of these describe your relationship?
- Does your partner continually criticize you? What you wear? What you say? Your beliefs? How you act or how you look?
- Does your partner accuse you of having an affair, or harass you about where you go and who you spend time with?
- Does your partner often call you insulting and degrading names?
- Has your partner threatened to hurt you or your children?
- Has your partner ever pushed, shoved, or slapped you?
- Has your partner failed to respect your right to say "no" to a sexual activity?
- Does your partner keep or take your paycheck, prevent you from getting or keeping a job, or not contribute to the household financially?
- Does your partner use looks or gestures to scare you, threaten to use a weapon against you, or destroy property?
- Does it seem that no matter what you do, everything is your fault?
- Does your partner text or instant message (IM) you excessively?
- Does your partner monitor your email or profile on social networking sites?
- Does your partner isolate you from friends and family?
These are abusive behaviors.
If you need help: "HELPLINE/2-1-1" at 317-926-HELP(4357) or the Statewide Domestic Abuse Hotline 1-800-332-7385. You can also visit Domestic Violence Network of Greater Indianapolis online at http://www.dvnconnect.org/.